Rejection.

“You have rejection and you have to learn how to deal with that and how to get up the next day and go on with it.”


Rejection beautifully explained by my girl Taylor Swift. If someone as successful as T-Swift can grasp the concept of rejection, why can’t you and I?

For starters, it’s an ugly word. Reject; one definition literally means ‘to cast out, or eject; vomit’. Even worse, ‘to discard as useless or unsatisfactory.” Is that how we’re supposed to feel when we don’t get something we really work for and want? Like useless bile? No wonder a girl will lay in bed for days when her crush doesn’t ask her out, a guy break down when he doesn’t make the sports team, and High School students stop caring when his or her dream school says, “sorry, we don’t want you”. But what about that twenty-three year old who thought she found her dream job, successfully completed two interviews and then woke up to the “We would like to inform you, we found someone else” e-mail? I felt like my ex was breaking up with me all over again. “Be a man! Call me or say it to my face!” “I’m too good for this anyway!” “Is this really happening?” “Now what?” “I need a drink!” Truth be told, needing a drink applies to almost any situation in my life. Anyway, I asked myself, “Is it the rejection that’s upsetting me or the fear of the unknown?” I guess you really can’t have rejection without some sort of fear. After my five-minute freak out, yes it literally lasted five minutes, I was back on the job hunt.

Maybe it’s my super positive and super annoying attitude about life, or maybe it was all the rejection I have dealt with growing up. Never-the-less, I was fine. What would being upset and bitter do about the situation? Maybe it was the vino, but I started thinking, “well if I didn’t get this great job, I can’t wait and see what better opportunity God has for me”“I’m only 23!” and in the words of a close friend, “You’re still pretty”. Take it from the queen of rejection, you’ll be fine. Life truly is full of ups and downs, but only you can decide what counts as an up and a down.

Honestly, life isn’t short. It’s the longest thing you’ll ever do. So, the next time you’re faced with rejection, pour yourself a glass, take a deep breath, look in the mirror, smile and say, “I’m super pretty”.

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Focus on the Good

To be honest, I wasn’t too fond of 2015 at first. Within the first week I thought the good life I have had was falling apart. I didn’t realize at the time what a blessing it all truly was.



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What changed? My attitude. My best friend gave me some of the best advice I have ever been given; “Be selfish for once. Put yourself first for once. Just focus on you and don’t care about other people so much.” It took some time, but once I did, everything began falling in place. “A bad attitude can literally block love, blessings, and destiny from finding you. Don’t be the reason you don’t succeed.” Just a quote I found on Pinterest, but I love it! I have never been so focused on my present and future. I have been blessed with knowing what I wanted to do for my career since I was ten, and because of that it has turned into my passion.

There are reasons things “go wrong” in life, but really it all will work out in the end. And if things aren’t right, it’s not the end. 🙂

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Let’s Talk About Stress, Baby.

Sixty-one days until I graduate from College.

In the past seventeen years of my life I have been a student. In the past four years I have worked my butt off for a bachelor’s and associates degree, but these next few months are the ones that will count the most because after May 22 my life is up to me.

So what’s next? More portfolios, drawing, sewing, interviews, resumes, cover letters, job hunts, and most importantly figuring out where I am going to live. Talk about STRESS.

During my college experience I have been told that when I apply for jobs I should fill out one hundred applications to try to get one, yes I said one, job interview. There are over 20,000 fashion students graduating across the nation in 2014, but there are not 20,000 jobs.

I consider myself one of the lucky ones because of my bring on the rejection attitude. The more I hear “no”, the closer I am to hearing “yes”. My Momma taught me young that there will always be someone out there better than you, even if you win the gold medal. The bright side to that; you will always be better than someone else.

So, to my fellow graduates; do not get discouraged if at first you don’t succeed. STAY POSITIVE! Do not burn bridges from hearing rejection. Your journey of life, in the fashion world or not, is up to you. Be as prepared as you can be; be confident, and never let your ego get in the way. Depend on you and yourself alone to fight your battles, because honey, this is the real world and in the real world we don’t tag team.

EB-ology- Keep your Head and Confidence like your Heels; High! Call me Rafiki, but take that “no” as a “this isn’t your time because better things are coming your way”. Easier said than done, but it’s also easier to be confident than cocky.

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